(Personal! But okay to share)
“A miracle happens each time you walk through that door.” Words like these came from my mouth as we started this week’s Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) support group meeting. I continued sincerely, “The Savior takes from our hearts and minds any criticism or judgement. In fact this is evidence that this is his work and he is with us all.” Looking into their eyes I spoke the truth, “We feel nothing but love, compassion, and gratitude that you are here.” Each pair of eyes in the room looked back with love and trust. And so we began another confidential and safe, “Healing through the Savior” meeting.
As prescribed by church materials, Sister Hardman and I conduct the meeting, welcome guests, set some expectations and then all who wish take turns reading from the guide book. We first read the title of each of the 12 Steps of recovery, then we continue taking turns reading the study material for one of the 12 steps. After that, our facilitator, a person who is in recovery, guides the ‘sharing’ portion of the meeting where each is given an opportunity to share about their recovery. These are often very inspiring, especially as they bear testimony of the Saviors power and role in their success. As the service missionaries, we conclude with “our testimony of the Church, of the ARP, and of the Savior and His Atonement.”
In order to do this, that is bear personal testimony of the ARP and the Savior’s Atonement in our lives, Sister Hardman and I have been studying the 12 steps during our personal time, individually and together. This was our fourth session so we were on Step 4. In the first three steps we honestly admit our inability to overcome some things on our own, that we need the power of God to restore us to spiritual health, and that we need to turn our will and lives to the care of God and Jesus Christ. These are very powerful principles to build our faith and step us forward. In Step 4 we perform a searching and fearless moral inventory of our lives, past and present to help us start our recovery from a position of truth, knowing what has occurred in our lives bringing us to where we are today. As an example, I applied it to some character traits I really want and need to improve, behaviors that cause me to be less than I know I want to be, or reactions that impede success in my cherished relationships. I chose pride, specifically impatience, taking offense and being judgmental as the character weakness of focus.
I first wanted to understand better how the twelve steps relate to each other so as any good engineer might do, I summarized them on a mind map or diagram (see picture), while reading scripture references for each. With the big picture in mind I then dove into Step 4 praying and writing, looking for situations or events in my life that may have contributed to learning bad behavioral habits and how they might be triggered presently. It was difficult and sometimes painful but like Nephi who exclaimed, “O wretched man that I am! Yea, my heart sorroweth because of my flesh… I am encompassed about, because of the temptations and the sins which do so easily beset me…” I pressed on with, “I know in whom I have trusted. My God hath been my support; he hath led be through mine afflictions…” (2 Nephi 4:17-19)
I considered events from early in my life to later, from home, family, school, church, and other social interactions. Sure enough, I stuck with the prayerful process and some events and habits and patterns emerged (which I won’t relate here). I considered fears that may have invited unhealthy defense behaviors, and false beliefs that may have contributed to those fears and found a number of things I can focus on, including spiritual things to remove barriers to recovery. As I understand it, the purpose of all this is to move forward with more thorough repentance (Steps 5-9), accountability, personal revelation, continue to seek and receive the Lord’s power, and serve or help others do the same (Steps 10-12.) I’ve experience enough so far to be very confident that in time I too can be ‘Healed through the Savior’ of my persistent weaknesses as I implement those principles and commandments and covenants that will enable his power in my life, the power of Christ. This process is showing us more specifically how to Come unto Him, and to listen to latter-day prophets. For example, President Nelson has encouraged us to study the Atonement of Jesus Christ regularly. This counsel now resonates with power in my heart.
“I’m in this process with you,” I said at the end of this week’s ARP support meeting. I was able to bear testimony that the process points us to the Savior including specifics from his life, example, teachings, commandments and promises. “For me, the process pointed me to studying more deeply and regularly the Atonement of Christ and his grace. The lack of more understand has contributed to fears resulting in impatience with others, mis-judgement, and my taking offense. “I know we can be guided to receive his power, specific power to help us overcome or recover.” Our meeting ended as it started, feeling nothing but love, compassion, and gratitude for everyone present, and the Gospel of Jesus Christ that gives such hope.
Independence Day – This past week, to celebrate Independence Day we enjoyed a concert at the ‘Shops at Wailea,’ a fun Hawaiian group called Nuff Sedd (genre: Reggae). We then went to a highly popular (think island traffic jam) July 4th off-shore fireworks celebration at the beach of the Grand Wailea. The fireworks shot from a barge surrounded by observing sailing vessels were fantastic, and the reflection out over the ocean was really cool.
Glenn Hardman and Dorothy Griffin; did they become good independent of outside factors? Certainly, not. Did any of this goodness come from their parents and ancestry? Certainly, yes. Dorothy spoke of her childhood. “I am truly grateful that my parents were always active and that they taught us by their example that church was the place we were to go, that activity in the church would bring joy and satisfaction to our lives. Though I have no memory of a burning testimony in those days, I know the seeds were planted then for my love of the church as I have grown older.” Similarly, Dorothy wrote of Glenn, “He went to Primary and learned about courage and being pure in heart, to be a cheerful helper to his father and mother every day, to say thank you, to obey, to be courteous at home, school and Primary, to pray and to appreciate the beautiful world.” As Glenn and Dorothy continued to grow in their youth, they made choices that brought them in contact with additional sources of help and divine instruction. While a young adult, Dorothy received an assignment she thought miraculous that gave her opportunity to serve in new ways, making her realize the source of her talents, and how she could use them for much good. “I began to see,” she wrote, “what the patriarch had meant when he told me I had talents that would manifest themselves in the positions of responsibility which I would have…” Glenn demonstrated his integrity when on his own in California, surrounded by a world of opportunities for good and bad. In a letter to his parents back home, some trusted friends wrote, “He never misses a day without coming in and reporting in. He is only going with church boys and girls and taking in the church activities. Dorothy Griffin, the girl he takes most, is a swell Mormon girl.” I can see how my life was and is influenced by their lives… I can see their influence in my life, in the lives of all their children, and their grandchildren and their great-grandchildren.
It was Christmas of 1909 just before my dad was to come home [from his two-year mission.] We were down to board floors and paper curtains [having sold the furniture piece by piece.] We had large five-gallon lard cans to sit on; a stove, table, and a bed that we all slept in. We sat in bed and sang Christmas carols until…it was time to go to sleep. We only had a bowl of rice that night for our dinner… We went to sleep hoping…for Santa to come. I woke up to the sound of crying. I went into the other room and found Mama crying. I asked what the matter was. She said…she was so grateful and happy to her Heavenly Father, and told me to go back to bed so Santa could come. I…was wakened again by her sobs. I went to sleep the third time and woke up at 7:30 am with mother still crying. As we all came out of the bedroom she made us kneel in prayer before we could see our toys. I will never forget the prayer my mother offered, thanking the Lord for his goodness to us. We then went out on the porch; there was a doll and dishes for the girls, a tool box for the boys and a small decorated Christmas Tree and a basket of food… We danced around the tree and sang and went to bed that night with our hearts full of happiness and our stomachs full of good food. Brother Alma Winn was our Santa and he had eight children of his own… My mother had cried and prayed all that night. Her prayers were answered… How grateful I am for the faith of my mother and grateful…that we five little ones weren’t forgotten by a “Santa” who had been inspired to come and help us in time of need.
Hannah Elizabeth Josephson, came into the world (St. John, Idaho, to be exact) on November 27, 1877, 2 days before Thanksgiving. She was the 3rd of 12 children born to Lars and Anna Josephson, immigrants from Sweden. There was great love and respect in this large but united family. They were known as “one of the best behaved in the valley.” Hannah was a “pretty brunette,” industrious, and “of a cheerful and religious disposition.” “I used to pray every day and trusted in the Lord,” she said. “I had my prayers answered many times.” The children were taught reading, writing, arithmetic, and geography by their mother, so Hannah was well prepared to enter school at age 6, and continued through the 8th grade. In 1887, nearly all family members including her father had a brush with Typhoid Fever. Three months of dedicated nursing and service by the church and community pulled them through. There were no deaths in the family, but her brother Levi stuttered badly the rest of his life. Hannah was baptized in 1891. She was inspired by her parent’s faith and devotion. “Many times I saw [my father] ride on horseback a distance of 15 miles to attend priesthood meeting. My whole family was religious at heart.” Hannah served as 2nd Counselor in the Young Ladies Mutual Improvement Association at age 18, admired church leaders, and remained active all her days. She too, had many admirers. While courting the man of her choice, “Hannah gave [him] to understand that her husband had to be worthy to take her to the temple.”
In 1848, five-year-old Francis Ann Coon and her siblings tried to cross the Garner pasture, but the bull saw them and charged. They ran for safety. Her sister “Permilia…climbed [a] tree and…[her brother] John handed all the younger children up before he climbed up himself” narrowly escaping the animals wrath.1 The Coon family, in route from Nauvoo to Council Bluffs was selected to go with the first pioneers to the Salt Lake Valley, but then Brigham Young assigned father Abraham Coon to remain a few years in Pottawattamie “to run a mill and help provide for the Saints…”2 The “corn was scarce,” but the “bluffs, glens, and running streams” were “picturesque.”3 Francis observed her father, Bishop Coon,4 a former member of the Nauvoo Legion and guard to Joseph Smith, faithfully help operate the Indian Mill on Big Mosquito Creek and care for families whose men had gone to serve in the Mormon Battalion2 including William Garner, the likely owner of the bull.3 At this young age, Francis experienced the faith of her parents, their determination to be endowed in the temple before leaving Nauvoo,2 and their sealing in Winter Quarters.5 After fulfilling their assignment in Iowa, Francis and her family walked1 most of the way to Salt Lake to carry out their hopes and dreams in Zion. It was in Salt Lake where Francis would meet her future husband.
During the boom-town 1950s in Los Angeles, Dona Hansen, the queen of the church Gold and Green Ball, and daughter of a self educated businessman and a most charitable mother, culminated her youth in what she thought would be the crowning event, marriage to a promising man. A short time later while anticipating their first born, her husband left her. She was devastated. “I didn’t think anyone would want to marry a divorced woman with a little son,” she thought. Dona prayed as she always did, was blessed by the prayers of others, and remained “close to [her] Father in Heaven and Savior.” Some time later Dona received a proposal of marriage from a man not of her faith, and she went away to Salt Lake City to consider her future seeking direction in the Temple. She felt inspired to return to Los Angeles. Upon her return, she felt and knew that he was not the one. To her surprise, her fiancé informed her, “I have just met a fellow at church. In fact, he is just what you are looking for.” Driven by the Spirit of the Lord, she stood in church and bore her testimony. Her fiancé and friend Ferril Losee were in attendance. Ferril thought, “She is wonderful but… to good for me.” A short time later, noting the absence of the ring, Ferril asked Dona out on a date. They drove to the beach where, as the sun set upon a beautiful day, the sun rose on a glorious union. Ferril said that he “would be the happiest man on earth if [Dona] would consent to marry him.” Dona knew the Lord was in it, and agreed. (by Kenneth Hardman, adapted from, Losee, Ferril A., 
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