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About Kenneth Richard Hardman

AncestorClips are short stories about real people. Each clip nurtures awareness of a time, a place, and the character of a man or woman who cultivated a path for our life. The reader feels the good, the obstacles, the happiness, the sadness, and the overcoming. They cheer us, make us resilient when challenged, give us purpose, and connect us to our multi-generational family. Each story is followed by reflections from the author and readers sharing how the story strengthened or inspired them. Ken Hardman is a son, a brother, a grandson, a great-grandson… He is also a husband, father and grand-father. Ken is a professional engineer, engineering mentor, technical writer, and associate technical fellow at a major aerospace company. He is a writer of engineering and family history stories. Please join Ken in reading, reflecting upon, or writing #AncestorClips

Week 13 – June 30, – Trust in God

Each day this past week we took time to prepare for upcoming assignments, and to care for ourselves spiritually, physically, and emotionally. We exercise, write and sing about the beauties of life (song: Life Surrounds), walk on beaches or piers, wade through the Iao Stream, admire God’s hand in the infinitely varying sunsets above the ocean, and meandering turtles below. On one evening while reading on the beach, a large seal parted the waves, crawled up the beach and drew a large crowd. The look in his eyes was, “It’s been a long journey. I’m tired. Leave me alone.” On another occasion Joan found a sleeping turtle on a small beach with a rock on the center of his shell. It is illegal to touch a turtle, but Joan felt compassion, tiptoed through the sand, and removed the rock. Then received a wink from the turtle that seemed to say, “Thank you.”

We prepared and practice a sacred hymn in a sacred place. We prepared an overview and testimony of the addiction recovery program which we then presented three times on Sunday (5th Sunday combined adult meetings) rushing to three different meetinghouses, on three different parts of the island. Our presentation included a tender review of Alma 7:11-12, a scripture that President Dallin H. Oaks said, “is the single clearest of all the scriptures on this essential power of the Atonement…” (Oaks, Strengthened by the Atonement of Jesus Christ, Oct. 2015) During the presentation we set a spiritual tone by singing the duet we had prepared, “My Shepherd Will Supply My Need,” (new Hymn 1014) while accompanying ourselves with violin and guitar. These were special moments for us and judging by expressions and spirit, special for the members. We reviewed church online resources with them, bore testimony of the power of the Savior to assist us in our needs, and with love invited them to invite others who could benefit from the program.

During this week’s support meeting several new people came. We focused on Step-3, “Decide to turn our wills and our lives over to the care of God, The Eternal Father, and His Son, Jesus Christ.” The basic principle is to Trust in God. The spirit was there, and we did our best conducting the meeting, discussing the principles, and bearing testimony at the end. However, as is too common for me (an addiction of pride), I doubted my effectiveness, wondering what I could’ve done differently or conveyed better for these beautiful, humble people. (I noticed that I was in need of the very principle we were teaching, that is: Trust in God).

As noted previously, Joan and I are reading, “The Journals of George Q. Cannon, Hawaiian Mission, 1850-1854). In 1851 Elder Cannon set out from Lahaina to live among the Hawaiian people in order to help him learn the language and convey the Gospel more effectively. Similarly, Joan and I occasionally set out to learn local history (we went to the Wailuku museum this week) and we read about Elder Cannon’s experiences with the people so that we might understand their culture and be more effective sharing the Savior’s message and healing power. On one occasion after struggling to preach in their language, in anxiousness Cannon wrote, “I felt very much depressed after this meeting, it seems a hard business to explain things. When will I be so that I can do justice to the principles of which I am the bearer?” On another occasion, speaking of his prayer to the Lord for help obtaining the language he said, “If I did not know that he would order everything for the best, I should be tempted to be discouraged.” (pg. 89) About the time of his first convert baptisms he wrote, “I have not felt the spirit of the Lord more… than I did this afternoon, and the people felt it… I had been enabled by his spirit to explain some things to the people few as they were that I had been sent to teach…” (pg. 95)

At our addiction support meeting the subject was Trust in God, and so having done our best to prepare and trust in him to execute the evening as he and his inspired resources prescribed, like Elder Cannon I should have had trust that “he would order everything for the best” that our best preparations and his process would work in the lives of those specific children of God who attended. Instead, I came home not feeling rest, but burden, the burden of self-doubt and self-criticism, whereas I should’ve taken his yoke upon me, not just words, but with full trust so that I might feel of his rest (Matthew 11:28-30) and not be burdened by the pride that was driving my unrest, the pride of wondering what I could’ve done differently or how I could’ve executed it differently (I notice the word “I” too much in the last sentence; pride). Sister Hardman and I made our best efforts. We studied, we prayed, we prepared. And in the session, we loved, we read, we discussed, and we carried out the class. And judging by the faces present many were touched and many felt sincere and good feelings. We have confidence that many are feeling more power in Christ. We take to the Lord our best offering, and He makes something beautiful.

Week 12 – June 23 – Hastening with Patience

We often hear that the Lord is “hastening his work,” (Nelson, Oct. 2024) and he certainly is. However, is seems that even when we “anxiously engage in a good cause” (D&C 58:27) there are often delays or disappointments requiring patience. Although minor, such has been true for us. But perhaps they are only setbacks from our perspective. The spirit whispers that this is His work and it may take a little time for us or others to prepare or get organized in the way he needs us to be. In his infinite perspective and wisdom, it may take a little time for people (including us), and things to get in place in order for us and the people we meet to receive and accomplish the Lords hastening work.

It was December 19, 1850 when Elder George Q. Cannon first set foot in Lahaina. He and his companions having been seasick through much of their journey from California to Oahu and then to Maui, the ‘bucket’ seemed a constant companion. (My heart goes out to them for I too am susceptible to motion sickness.) “I felt more feelings of despondency than I had done since I left home, “Elder Cannon wrote. “I felt that it was a great trial and cross to go to a foreign nation and preach the gospel.” After finding a suitable place to stay, he mastered his feelings and they got “busily engaged” in their work. The work did not come easy and many disappointments set them back including language barriers. “I feel a great anxiety to be able to talk with them and impart unto them the glorious truths of which we are the bearers…” After a while, when some of the missionaries became discouraged, felt they were wasting time, and decided to go home, Elder Cannon sought for revelation in prayer. “Every time I had prayed to the Lord that there might be a good work done here I had felt my bosom warm and felt the spirit continually whispering to me if I should persevere I should be blest…” He persevered, worked hard to learn the language, and then set out for a great work on Maui. (The Journals of George Q. Cannon, Hawaiian Missions, Ch. 1-2)

We too have had some delays getting things in order for the work we have been called to do. But in hindsight, that month or two waiting for this or that may have been needed for people (including us), and things to get in place, physically, emotionally and spiritually. After two months of studying the language and attempts at preaching in Lahaina, Elder Cannon wrote, “I have been thinking…to strike out tomorrow on a tramp round the Island, my desire to learn the language is the principle reason. I want also to see the situation of things at different parts of the Island…” In a similar spirit, Sister Hardman and I have been ‘tramping’ around the Island, visiting, getting acquainted with “the situation of things,” and recently under direction of stake and ward leaders, getting to know the saints, sharing a message about Jesus Christ as our Advocate, and putting in place the foundation for inviting participants to the Addiction Recovery Program (ARP). 

Sunday we started at the Kihei 1st Ward invited by very capable Bishop Maetani to acquaint his ward council with the resources provided by the church to help those with addiction or compulsive behaviors. With scriptures we counselled together on how coming unto Christ blesses us with power and grace to be perfected in him. (Moroni 10:32) In the same ward, Sister Hardman and I spoke in sacrament meeting and told of advocates in our lives, especially our parents, and then bore testimony of Jesus Christ, our advocate with the Father. “Having ascended into heaven, having the bowels of mercy; being filled with compassion towards the children of men; standing betwixt them and justice…” (Mosiah 15:9). Stake President Kelii Wunder was also in attendance and bore his testimony of these principles. We had a similar opportunity across the island in the Waiehu ward council. Our meetings concluded Sunday in our home ward, Kahului 1st Ward where we had been invited to sing a musical number in sacrament meeting. We sang, “My Shepherd Will Supply My Need,” (Hymn 1014). We practiced a lot and felt it was a contribution to the spirit of the meeting.

Because of these ongoing visits to the wards, we were blessed to welcome the next day a good number of new participants to the ARP support meeting, Healing through the Savior. We felt we were on sacred ground as with more than a dozen participants we read through Step 2 of the 12-steps, discussed the principles, then listened to each person tell their story of hope. Attendees include addicts, spouses of addicts, supporters and people wanting to learn. “I need this too,” I shared as part of my closing testimony. “There are things I want and need to improve but can’t seem to do it on my own. I too need the Saviors help, power, and grace.” I ponder a lot, how this is done. How do I enable the power of Christ to help me overcome things I can’t seem to do on my own? Part of the answer seems to be in understanding my relationship with him, and how he feels for me and advocates for me, and each of you. At the last minute I felt prompted to recite my testimony with the group in words I had compiled in a song last year. Many of you have already heard it. To emphasize our personal relationship, I wrote it as a duet, a personal conversation between Jesus and me, or any one of his followers. It is called, “For the Joy Set Before Me.”

Even with great tensions in the world, we concluded our week feeling Gods love for all of his children. The Lord is hastening his work.

Week 11 – June 16 – Hosting our first support meeting

After weeks preparing and promoting throughout the two stakes on Maui, we held our first Healing through the Savior, 12-Step Addiction Recovery Program support meeting. As we’ve traveled and met with leaders and members of the Church, they always nod appreciatively and with tender confirmation, “That is really needed here,” followed by a humble or passionate, “Thank you for doing this.” On a recent flight we conversed at length with a stranger, a part time resident who expressed these same things. Some have indicated that Covid-19 shut down in-person 12-step meetings. Others say the recent Lahaina fires and devastation contributed to an increase in addictive behaviors. Since the program is safe and anonymous, we will never tell names or specifics in our writings about participants, however to share our spiritual enthusiasm and increase awareness, we may share our personal application of the 12 steps to our own weaknesses and shortcomings. And since no ‘sign-up’ is required and no roll is taken, we had no way of knowing how many would come to the meeting, except by the often-heard statements, “I’m going to encourage my [relative] or [friend] to come,” and “My people are good people. Some of them just have bad habits.” Bishops and missionaries often tell us they have people whom they will encourage to participate.

Turnout at our first meeting was good. In addition to Sister Hardman and myself and our excellent ‘facilitator,’ we had those who were struggling with some kind of addiction, and we had those who came for awareness and healing because someone they love is struggling with a destructive behavior. We also had those who have been sober for decades but came to strengthen their own ongoing recovery and provide support to others. After doing our best to give Christ-like love as each person entered the room, we had a prayer, talked about resources available to them on the Church website, and then we took turns reading from the 12-steps in the guidebook. The text is honest, loving, and inspiring, written by recovering addicts who have found Healing through the Savior. I’ll share my personal experience with the text shortly. During our first meeting, after reading and discussing Step 1, our facilitator, also a recovering addict, shared about her experience, then invited each participant to share encouraging them to focus on their recovery and not on the graphic details of their behavior or the behavior of others. There were tears of burden and tears of hope. When the sharing was completed, Sister Hardman and I bore our testimonies of the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ in ourlives. Then the meeting closed with prayer. Participants lingered briefly to give each other encouragement.

In preparation, I personally had given much thought to the first few steps in the guidebook. I thought about my own shortcomings I hoped the Savior would help me with and make me stronger (Ether 12: 27). After feeling low about a personal issue, I felt drawn to the phrase, “power of Christ” and wondered how I could access more of His power. I woke early one morning and felt prompted to go through the entire 12-step guidebook and circle every occurrence of the word, ‘power,’ which I did with the help of the online version and search function. As I circled each occurrence I noticed frequent use of the term ‘grace’ and so I marked that word as well. A pattern emerged and I began to see the word power associated with principles of the Gospel, specifically with the things Jesus taught and did. The power of faith, the power of repentance, the power of the Holy Ghost, the power of love, the power of forgiveness, the power of loving your enemy, the power of going the second mile, the power of honesty, the power of humility… I was beginning to see that enabling the power of Jesus Christ is in part doing what he does and says and teaches. 

For example, I reflected that if I’m prideful, impatient or get angry too often, then if I humble myself and have actionable faith in Christ, not only will he “make weak things become strong unto [me]” but after my best efforts “[His] grace is sufficient” for an additional endowment or gift of power to overcome my weakness. By loving instead of hating, by being patient instead of hasty, by trusting him instead being fearful, then his power emerges, and his grace brings additional comfort and rest. By actively facilitating and participating in the 12-steps, I see that the Lord not only wants to redeem the addict, but also the shortcomings in me, in all of us. Based on what I have felt so far, I have every confidence that as I yoke with Christ, I will find rest to my soul. (Mathew 11:28-29)

With our first recovery support meeting now in our memories, we go forward inviting others to participate in weeks to come. Little (or big) miracles happen along the way. Last week we took announcement posters to each foyer in the six meetinghouses on Maui. In Lahaina we found a member needing a listening ear. On our trip to Hana we met the new senior couple serving there. They told us of a young adult they met at the Kahului Costco earlier in the week. That young man showed up at our meeting. Our calendar is filling up with appointments to meet with ward and branch councils, 2nd hour 5th Sunday combined adult classes, and sacrament meeting speaking assignments across both stakes. We are grateful for these opportunities to invite and testify of Christ and his ability to bear burdens and redeem us.

On Sunday, we attended church in the Makawao Ward up-country, where we shared about the program and met some wonderful people. We concluded our Sabbath having Father’s Day dinner with the other senior missionaries on the island. We love them and love serving with them. And they are helping us in our work.

Week 10 – June 9 – Likening missionaries then and now

Healing through the Savior, the 12-Step Addiction Recovery Program is now being promoted via digital means and our printed flyers across all wards and branches (two stakes) on Maui, Molokai, and Lanai. Part of our work is to attend all Ward Councils or 5th Sunday all-adult meetings to explain the program, raise awareness, and invite participation. “Do you or a loved one suffer from addiction,” the flyer reads in part. “This program provides a safe place where you will: find a support system and practice the 12 steps, meet others who can relate to your struggles, learn from others’ successes in recovery, find an uplifting, inclusive environment where the spirit thrives, and find hope, peace, and healing through the Atonement of Christ…” We also spend time coordinating with facilitators who will help run the support meetings.

To give us a deeper appreciation for the people, their culture and history, we are drawn to Maui church history and find insights for the recovery work we are doing today. For several years now I have been reading Saints – The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. I just finished Volume 4, the last of the series. Reading this creative, narrative non-fiction style was an overall fulfilling experience. Inspiring Maui church history begins in Volume 2 with George Q. Cannon and his fellow missionaries. “George Q. Cannon gripped his travel bag as he stepped into a stream winding through Maui’s verdant ‘Iao Valley… Four days earlier, he had left his home in Lahaina and started walking north along the shoreline.” Joan and I have driven the northern route a number of times and with its winding path in and out of the mountain over ridges and cliffs, we can only imagine how Elder Cannon made his way over several days to where we live now in Wailuku. I’ve been very inspired by his determination to be a faithful and diligent missionary. “I must push out among the Natives,” he said, “and commence preaching to them.”

Not far from our apartment in Wailuku, Elder Cannon, “felt impressed to return to the town. He quickly retraced his steps, and as he passed the churchyard, two women emerged from a nearby house. ‘E ka haole!’ they called back into the house. Oh, the white man!” Elder Cannon was asked by three men where he was going. He was invited to stay at their home and began teaching. “As George spoke with them, he knew at once that he had found the people God had prepared… George taught [Jonathan] Napela about the Book of Mormon and the prophet Joseph Smith.” He then made a short trip back to Lahaina likely along the Lahaina-Pali Trail, later returning to “teach Napela and his friends.”

Recently, Joan and I hiked the ancient Lahaina-Pali Trail, still blazed daily by hiking enthusiasts. This was one of the ancient routes between Lahaina to Wailuku. The challenging 1600-foot vertical climb in 2.5 miles provided beautiful views of Haleakala, the Maui valley between and the Maalaea Bay to the south. The steep aggressive climb encouraged numerous stops along the way to slow the heart beat and take in the sights Elder Cannon would have seen. After teaching Napela and his friends in Wailuku, these missionaries crossed the Maui isthmus (valley) made their way up-country on the foothills of Haleakala and met with teaching success (more on this later). We are now working to offer the ARP with members of the up-country Makawao and Pukalani wards. Whereas Canon and Napela brought the Church and the Saviors Restored Gospel, we are hoping to bring the Saviors program of addiction recovery to those who have the need.

When Sister Hardman and I hiked the Lahaina-Pali Trail, we found it very, very difficult to navigate the well warn zigzag trail, filled with lava-composed rocks and boulders from small to beach ball size. It was easy to slip if not very determined and cautious. We anticipate those struggling with addiction tread a similar path and it is our every intention to be there for them, and to encourage others in their lives to be there with them and for them. As we meet those who have been or are on this recovery path, we feel great compassion, pray hard for them and we know that their loved ones both living and those who lived here during Cannon and Napela’s day are exercising themselves in heaven on behalf of their loved ones on earth. “They are good people,” as one brother told us. “Some of them are just caught in bad habits.” From Lahaina to Wailuku, from Kahului to Pukalani, from Kihei to the rest of Maui, Molokai, and Lana’i, one of the goals is to help them be ready to make and keep sacred covenants with God as Cannon and Napela did. This past week we made a trip to Utah for a long-planned reunion with our family. It was wonderful to be with them in the St. George area for hiking and swimming and just being together. There were also opportunities to give extra love to those who experienced sickness on the journey. Before returning to Maui, we also attended the temple for the first endowment session of our oldest grand-daughter, and spent hours with some of our younger grandchildren.

Week 9 – June 2, 2025 – Many ways to Minister

It was just after sunset at Kalama Park in the beach town of Kihei, Hawaii. We sat with our friends Ken and Sheron Drake, and their daughter watching a parade of bicycles go by. Each bike had multi-colored lights strung through the tire spokes and bike frames. It was the twice-weekly Hawaii Electric Light Parade to promote night-time bicycle safety. Our friends young-adult son was among the participants. We lived in the same ward many years ago, even went on a handcart trek together, but hadn’t seen them for decades. They have family on Maui and visit occasionally. We had a nice time, became re-acquainted, and figured out we don’t live very far from each other in Pleasant Grove, Utah. We learned that they were in the cast of The Chosen, Season 5, filmed not far from our Mosida mission in Utah. Like for most people, they have experienced some challenges in life. I hope we provided some love and encouragement.

Early in the week my cell phone rang. It was Dale Johnson from our Kahului 1st Ward. “Brother Hardman, I’m sure you are very busy, but since it’s a work day I didn’t know who else to call.” Hearing his voice reminded me of his warm welcome to us in church a few weeks earlier and our conversations during the recent ward temple trip to Oahu. “My leg is troubling me and, well, I don’t have insurance and… could you come over and give me a blessing?” We of course went right over and Brother Johnson welcomed us from a folding chair just outside his apartment door. Judging by the stack of well-warn books under the chair, it’s clear Dale does a lot of reading out in the fresh Maui air. We entered the cinderblock home and met Sister Kathy Johnson and their young adult son Joshua. We got to know the family, talked about faith and priesthood blessings, then Joshua anointed and I sealed the blessing. We didn’t have our instruments with us but we sang a hymn with them, shared a few stories, and then departed.

A few days later my phone rang again. It was Dale. He sounded cheerful and said nothing about his leg. This time he wanted help tagging (adding a name) an ancestor photo on Ancestry.com. He had worked for Ancestry many years before and I was happy to hear that he likes doing family history work. Again he said something like, “I’m sure you are busy, but…” “No,” I replied, “This is interesting. I enjoy family history. I know FamilySearch better than Ancestry but tell me what you’re trying to do.” In his detailed Canadian manner he described the problem, gave me access to his files and we dove in. “It’s a picture of a band with my uncles from my home in Manitoba, Canada. I’m related to four of them in the picture but I know the names of all six but can’t tag the two.” We fiddled and tried a few things, but without success. So, after the call I fired a question off to Chatgpt.com and got the answer. On Maui, while plunging into our service mission calling, it feels good to dip my toe occasionally, even if very briefly, into the sea of family history.

Our daily preparations as service missionary Group Leaders for Healing through the Savior, Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) continued this week. Last Sunday we attended two Ward Council meetings on the Island of Molokai via Zoom from Maui. We explained the program and encouraged all to invite those who can benefit by participation. We also connected with Elder and Sister Teve who have been hosting ARP on Molokai for many years. This very kind and loving couple welcomed us and we all expressed desire to coordinate and assist each other. On Maui we printed some flyers and purchased some easels and set them up in several foyers of meetinghouses in both stakes. While up-country at Pukalani we met with the assigned high counselor, Brother Keola Higa and stake President Kelii Wunder and received much support for what we are doing. “The hardest part will be getting people to attend the first time,” President Wunder expressed. “[It is difficult for them to ask or get] help overcoming weaknesses in their lives.” They plan to encourage wards in their stake to have us come and present in ward councils and other gatherings. We provided a digital copy of the ARP flyer for them to circulate. In the mean time we continue to study the materials we will use when conducting the group meetings. (Before leaving Pukalani that evening, we were impressed with the beautiful sunset. See picture)

We have become good friends with two of the Honolulu Hawaii Mission senior missionary couples who are serving on Maui; the Marriott’s and Taylors. This week we had lunch with the Taylors at one of our favorite restaurants, “Coconuts Fish Café.” The Taylors serve as Member Leader Support (MLS) missionaries which means they do many things to help the missionaries (including fix flat tires), the mission president and the local leaders. They also serve at a local Catholic food pantry and have invited us to join them. “Many churches on the island think very highly of the Latter-day Saints,” Elder Taylor informed us. “It would be good to get the ARP flyers to these churches.”

During our spare time Joan does creative needlework and I work on creating songs. When I need to record vocals, I set up a simple recording studio in our apartment (see picture). I recently released the following on Spotify and other major music outlets: When Earth Meets Heaven, Ballad of John Griffin, and Feel God’s Love Again. Also, it has been years since Joan has worn a wedding ring. So, we resolved that omission (see picture). Mid-week we packed, got a ride with Elder Taylor to the airport, and flew to Utah for a family reunion that has been planned for many months. (One of the benefits of a part time service mission is the flexibility to return home occasional for personal reasons.) While at home we enjoy some Sundance air and views (see picture), a Mosida Handcart Trek Site reunion dinner, and stake conference. We look forward to spending a few days with children and grandchildren.

Pictures: Pukalani sunset, Ring, Recording studio, Sundance

Week 8 – May 26, 2025 – The Wonder of The Wunders

In 1986, a young father moved from Utah to Maui to start a new assignment at the Bank of Hawaii. His pregnant wife and young child stayed back on the mainland until a suitable affordable home was found. His initial situation was near beautiful beaches but challenging because it didn’t encourage the lifestyle change he needed to overcome some unfavorable habits. He rented a home up-country in Kula where his wife and child joined him. Soon their baby daughter was born and then by divine providence they moved to a home in Pukalani. Kevin and Bonnie Williams were members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, but Kevin had not been active in the church for some time.

A few years earlier, also in Pukalani, native Arnold Wunder had gone through his own reactivation in the church. The Wunders and the missionaries followed divine promptings, and pure Christian spirit and “worked overtime on [Kevin.]” Because of his experience, Arnold knew Kevin’s every move. He agreed to start coming to church and even go on ‘splits’ with the missionaries. Kevin recently share with us, “My true conversion happened one night on missionary splits with Elder White and Elder Stringham. While living in Maui, we were counting our pennies and weren’t able to pay tithing which was keeping us from being sealed in the temple. I’ll never forget a family we visited, who literally had nothing. But when the missionaries challenged them to pay tithing they took their last $20 from a sugar bowl that was intended for food the following day to pay their tithing so they could be baptized the following week. I wept in the backseat of the missionaries car all the way home to Pukalani. I got home and told Bonnie we need to start paying tithing. The following Sunday we paid our tithing and have never stopped…We had our recommends issued by Bishop Arnold Wunder and then the following month we came home and were sealed in the Salt Lake Temple.” Bishop Wunder called Bonnie to be the primary president and Kevin received his patriarchal blessing and was called to be the Elder’s Quorum president. (Correspondence with Ken Hardman, May 2025)

Bonnie and Kevin Williams, have been active ever since and have serviced in many church callings, and raised a beautiful family. They now live in St. George Utah and attend the temple every Tuesday. Bonnie Williams and Joan Hardman are sisters! Years ago, Joan and I corresponded with Colleen Wunder as we were very interested in the historical Pulehu Chapel, to which she gave us information. When Bonnie and Kevin heard of our mission on Maui, they told us the story of the Wunders. We looked them up and made their acquaintance. They immediately invited us over for dinner this past week. It was a blessing to meet them in person and feel of their faithful love and passion for the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Brother Wunder and one of their sons have served as stake presidents on Maui. The Wunders allowed us to share a few musical numbers in their home. They also invited us to participate in the local Maui Food Bank drive last week, which service we enjoyed.

We are progressing in getting ready to host, “Healing through the Savior, 12-Step Addiction Recovery Program” starting June 16. “Oh, that is so needed,” we hear from church members, members of Ward Council’s across the stake and islands, and the full-time missionaries. We have received training from Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) coordinators in American Fork Utah, Anaheim California, and Oahu Hawaii. We have been personally studying the printed and online materials and feel ready to start. The participant guide written by recovered addicts introduces the program, “First and foremost, we want you to know that there is hope for recovery from addiction. We are men and women who have suffered the devastating effects of various addictions and have experienced long-term recovery. We have known great sorrow, but we have seen the Savior’s power turn our most devastating defeats into glorious victories…” The guide draws upon scriptures, words of prophets, and proven steps of recovery. We are very excited about the love, support, and success participants will have as they draw on the power of Jesus Christ. We anticipate becoming closer to the Savior as well, as we apply the principles to our own shortcomings.

Joan and I spoke in our Sacrament meeting Sunday. Our topic was, “Jesus Christ, our advocate with the Father.” To illustrate, in both cases Joan and I drew upon memories of our own fathers and times in our youth where they were our advocate and were there for us when we were in danger or made mistakes. We gave ward members backstory for our love and interest in serving on Maui and then related this topic to our calling in the Addiction Recovery Program.

“There is another advocate that believes in us so very much. Jesus Christ has many vital roles in Heavenly Fathers plan. He executed the creation of the world and the hosts thereof. He is our Savior, friend, and Redeemer. By virtue of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, as recorded in the Doctrine and Covenants our righteous savior pleads, ‘Father, behold the sufferings and death of him who did not sin, in whom thou wast well pleased; behold the blood of thy Son which was shed… Father, spare these my brethren that believe on my name, that they may come unto me and have everlasting life.’ (D&C 45:1, 3-5) We referenced the stories of Jesus praying for his disciples in John 17 and the sacred prayer he offered while surrounded by his followers in the new world. ‘And no one can conceive of the joy which filled our souls at the time we heard him pray for us unto the Father.’ (3 Nephi 17:17)”

In the temple recently I pondered the Lords promise, “I will manifest myself to my people in mercy in this [Kirtland Temple] house.” (D&C 110:7) I focused on Jesus as our advocate with the Father. Revelation came and many references and symbols took on new and deeper meaning. Indeed, Jesus is there, engaged between us and our Father, advocating with love and mercy in our behalf.”

I pray that we may all imagine Jesus Christ advocating to the Father for us personally, perhaps even by name.

Pictures: Colleen and Arnold Wunder, Maui Food Bank drive, Joan at Pukalani Chapel, Ken and Joan at 13-Crossings trail

Week 7 – May 19, 2025 – Repeatedly touched by God

After attending our first Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) Meetings as new service missionary Group Leaders, I wrote in my journal, “I was deeply touched by Godly love for each of the [participants] who shared their recovering experiences.” It was in American Fork, Utah as we were on a brief trip home to take care of Joan’s broken tooth. We decided to get some training while there and contacted one of the local ARP Coordinators. Walking into Elder and Sister Metro’s home we instantly felt of their faith, love, and strong testimonies. It is called, “Healing through the Savior.” They took time for us as we all introduced ourselves. Then they share instructions, templates, scripts, and other tips for conducting ARP meetings. Their high praise for the ARP was confirmed as, in our first actual meetings we heard over and over how individuals were more successful while focused on the power of Jesus Christ. “This is the Atonement in practice,” I heard one participant say. In one of the meetings Elder Metro invited me to conduct part of the meeting. Joan attended one of the support meetings just for women. Being on the Lords errand to serve others is a wonderful experience.

To make sure Joan’s tooth was recovering well, we spent a few more days in Utah. We attended a session at the Provo City Center Temple, attended Halvor’s Soccer game, ate at Chubby’s with the Gardner’s, attended Makenly and Alayna’s dance recital, went to Jana and Brent’s report on their recent pleasure trip to Fiji, and spent time visiting with Melanie (and the cats) at home. Together, we all enjoyed Mulan, the live action movie. I mowed and trimmed the fast-growing spring lawn twice, caught up on some mail, and continued preparing for our ‘talks’ coming up in our Kahului ward. The topic is, Jesus is my Advocate. It is a joy, inspiring and powerful, to study and picture Jesus Christ as our personal advocate with the Father. According to the scriptures, it seems probable that Jesus and Heavenly Father discuss each of us personally, by name and advocate for our well-being and eternal success. “Spare these my brethren that believe on my name, that they may come unto me and have everlasting life.” (D&C 45:3-5) “Lift up your hearts…I…am your advocate.” (D&C 29:5) Then, there is that sacred setting in ancient America where Jesus appears, blesses, heals, and then in the presence of a ‘steadfast’ multitude prays to his father for them, including the children. “No one can conceive of the joy which filled our souls at the time we heard him pray for us unto the father.” (3 Nephi 17:17, italics added). In the temple this week, my mind focused on this. Revelation came and many references and symbols took on new and deeper meaning. Indeed, Jesus is there, between us and our Father, advocating with love and mercy in our behalf.

Fighting time-zone-hopping and jet-lag, we arrived back on Maui. Our new friends, Elder and Sister Marriott picked us up at the airport. The next morning we did our best to vacuum, take out trash, and otherwise help clean our local meetinghouse with other ward members. With a nap and some shopping, we were ready to go forward. We reviewed a message from President H., “When you get back, I would encourage you to try to visit at least one ward council or their second hour at least once a week until you’ve met everyone.” So, we made a plan and Sunday morning headed twenty miles around the west mountain to Lahaina for Sacrament meeting. In the meetinghouse we were surprised to walk passed the stake president who caught us and said it was Ward Conference and invited us immediately into a special council and asked us to introduce ourselves. “Aloha, brothers and sisters, we are very glad to serve you in hosting the addiction recovery program.” Many heads nodded as if to say there is a need and we are grateful. “If any of you know anyone who suffers from addiction, we invite you to invite them to come to this loving, safe environment where they will be encouraged to seek the power of the savior in becoming what He knows they can become.” We were excused from the council and made our way to the chapel where we attended the ‘visitors’ (tourists) sacrament meeting hosted by the ward. The chapel nearly filled by starting time and, after singing, prayer, and the administration of the sacrament, many testimonies were shared by the visitors who expressed their love for the locals who had lost so much in the recent fires, and their gratitude for the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

Feeling humble and blessed, we drove back to Kahului anxious to attend church with our ward whom we hadn’t seen for a couple weeks. Just outside of Lahaina, driving along the west Maui beaches and bluffs, our phone rang. It was our bishop, Bishop T. He started to talk while we found a place to pull over. “Would you be able to teach the youth in Sunday School today? There are about 20 in the class.” When you are a service missionary, and your bishop makes a request like that, the only answer is, Yes. “And,” he continued, “would you please visit Edgar C. who has a serious illness in the hospital. He is in room…” During the rest of the drive Joan read outload the Come, Follow Me lesson and we prepared for teaching Sunday School. D&C 46 is about the Gifts of the Spirit, so we stopped by our apartment and picked up an object lesson about gifts, specifically the gift of music, and headed for church. After our second sacrament meeting of the day, we taught Sunday School and later reported back to the bishop. “Sunday school went really good… they gave us their full attention. We engaged with them on D&C 46 and had really good conversations. Joan and I brought our guitar and violin to maybe help capture their attention and play a couple songs. [This] helped facilitate some wonderful gospel discussion. Thank you.” There was a good spirit with these kids.

Although tired, we went to the hospital to visit Edgar C. We found several others in the room including Pres. H (who seems to be everywhere on the island). Shortly it was just me and Joan with Brother C. and his wife. Although preparing for surgery the next day, he was very calm and kind as he talked about his condition and family and shared his conversion story. He expressed confidence that the Lords hand is in the lives of his family. Out of nowhere I said, “Have you had a hymn today?” So, we sang a hymn together. Then Joan asked, “Do you have a favorite hymn?” He thought, began to hum, then we recognized the song and all began to hum, “Testimony,” we all said in unison. We sang a verse, concluded our visit with hugs, and went home that evening feeling the love of God.

Pictures: Provo City Center Temple, Maui Sunset from shores south of Lahaina

Week 6 – May 12, 2025 – Two stories that ‘set’ this week ‘apart’

We ascended a short hill to get to the small graveyard near Maui’s western shore. The map on the BillionGraves app led us to the Maileipai Cemetery entrance along the main highway in Kahana, but the gate was locked. Using the GPS navigator, we went around the neighborhood and found a narrow alley headed in the right direction. We parked the car and continued along a dirt road then up the short hill. For an old small cemetery, it seemed unusual that there were new small trees planted carefully along the access road.

Half way up we were noticed by dogs who began to bark. A few more feet and we saw that a half dozen dogs were in two rows of enclosures, one row stacked on top of the other, and one unleashed dog was growling and moving toward us. We stopped and surveyed the scene. The graveyard was to our right surrounded by a white picket fence. Straight ahead was a lone tree under which was a rather nice tent. Surrounding the tent were wooden benches with pots and other items expected in a kitchen. “We’ll” I said, “This homeless person has it pretty nice.” Between the dog cages and the tent was a shack with a window and door. Behind the shack we could see both ends of an old pickup truck.

The dogs had calmed a little so Joan walked forward. “Let’s keep going.” I was proud of her bravery. As part of our mission service we had decided that we would take pictures of graves for BillionGraves to support their genealogical purpose. We went to work taking pictures of each aging grave marker, half of which had no visible writing, or the writing had eroded away. Joan held back the brush, and I took the pictures. We then descended the hill, returned to our car and continue on our way.

Later at our apartment we transcribed the information (typing the text we read in the pictures) and became curious about one in particular. Wording inscribed with a hand tool in the once wet concrete read, “Our Beloved Son and Brother, Nelson B. Sablas, Born July 8, 1948, Died Feb [day unreadable], 1999.” “That’s odd,” I thought. “I guess it’s possible for parents to bury their 51 year old son (referring to the phrase Our Beloved Son).” I’ve been toying with family history all my life and this one caught my attention. I opened FamilySearch.org to see if by chance this person was there and what other information I could find. Indeed, I found him, and his parents and some helpful resources including the fathers obituary. Nelsons death year was 1949; so actually, he only lived seven months. The father was from the Philippians, the mother from Maui, and they had many children, not just Nelson. Why was young Nelson buried in that old small graveyard and other family members elsewhere? Why did he die so young? Why did the father come to Maui? How did the parents meet? The parents are buried just down the road from us in Wailuku. Although not related to this family, I felt, and still feel inclined to learn more, update their records, and see if there is temple work that can be done. Such stirrings came from braving service in an isolated, dog protected, lone tree, organized homeless persons yard.

Late in the week we became concerned about Joan’s cracked tooth. It was a month from our planned trip to Utah for doctor and dentist visits but that future visit was for a dental exam and checkup only, not to fix a tooth. Tooth infection’s for Joan had caused problems in the past so we decided to act. We called our dentist, sent a picture of her cracked tooth, and the dentist confirmed pain relief or action was necessary. Comparing expected out-of-network insurance costs with travel costs, we booked a quick round-trip to Utah to get Joan to her dentist.

Just before leaving, our new stake president called and said our service missionary application process had progressed enough to get us set apart so we met him at the stake center before our departure. President Hanks performed a follow-up interview, asked if we had any concerns, and gave wonderful counsel. He reached for the scriptures, opened to Isaiah and taught us some important messages. “Thus saith the Lord, which maketh a way in the sea, and a path in the mighty waters…Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing: now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.” (Isaiah 43:16, 18-19) His message in part was that the Lord will make a way to accomplish his work whether that work be like crossing an ocean or a mighty river, he may not use the same old ways to do his work but we can trust he will find new ways to accomplish new things. He will make a way to cross our wildernesses and find nourishing water in our deserts. We felt the spirit of his message.

He then set apart Sister Hardman then myself as Service Missionaries in the Kahului Maui West Stake bestowing the authority to perform our specific assignments including overseeing the Addiction Recovery Program in the stake. Very encouraging and powerful blessings were bestowed with hopeful, heavenly promises. (Like most blessings of this kind, we wished later that the special occasion could have been recorded.) We were blessed that we would find special meaning in all that we do, that our posterity would be blessed through our service, that we should do our best and let God take care of the things he can do best, and that we would have heavenly power and confidence. On the way out of his office, he stopped us in front of a painting of the Savior and had us pose for a picture as new missionaries.

With the help of our senior missionary friends, the Marriott’s, we were taken to the airport and made our journey back to Utah.

Pictures: Elder and Sister Hardman, Maileipai Cemetery, Rock Formation

Week 5 – May 5, 2025 – The Demeanor of a Saint

Joan and I have been deeply touched preparing to host addiction recovery meetings on Maui. Provided by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, it is called, “Healing through the Savior – The Addiction Recovery Program.” In our role we will plan, conduct, and set the tone for meetings where recovering addicts can come to a safe and caring environment to anonymously share successes, encourage each other, and learn how to draw on the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. The sharing portion is conducted by a recovered addict, one who has successfully applied the recovery steps and principles and can provide hope, a living example to others of success, that the Savior can help them.

To prepare ourselves, we study the guide books, the recovery steps, and listen to publicly available audio recordings of recovery meetings approved by the participants to help others who may not be able to come to an in-person meeting. We read associated scriptures and words of latter-day prophets in the guide. While listening, we’ve wept for those who have been in bondage to heartbreaking addictions. We’ve rejoiced with their testimonies and stories of gratitude and success. We’re anxious to play a role for future participants as they travel this challenging journey of recovery. We pray that people across the islands who are in such bondage, will have the desire to seek help, including help that can be found in this recovery program. As stated in the leaders guide, we work for and pray for their success so that they can make and keep sacred covenants with God for even greater blessings. It is the Atonement of Jesus Christ in action. (Ref. https://addictionrecovery.churchofjesuschrist.org)

We have also been touched by the support and love we receive by tourists, church members and non-members, for our willingness to come here to serve. Almost every day we meet someone who knows someone who could benefit by this program. This week we stopped along a trail to visit with another hiker, a resident. As we parted this kind stranger said, “Thanks for coming here and doing God’s work.” We ask for your prayers, and pray that we may be humble and do God’s work in his time, and in his way.

We take time every day for our own physical and emotional health. Adjacent to our apartment in Wailuku is a residential area called Wailuku Heights. I often make the 600-foot elevation gain hike to get my cardio exercise, then lift weights at home for resistance training. We occasionally use the apartment clubhouse gym and pool for exercise. This week Joan and I went on two significant hikes. I’ll speak of one of them now, and reserve the other for a future story. On the far east side of Maui is the small town of Hana which is reached after forty miles or so of winding road from Kahului, many narrow bridges, fresh banana bread shops, and ‘locals’ anxious to drive faster than the tourists (who are enjoying the many views, waterfalls, and seascapes). We pulled into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints chapel to eat the lunch we packed. Another ten miles past Hana along the coast is the lower part of the Haleakala National Park, Ohe’o Gulch, and the Seven Sacred Pools. The primary hike, the Pipiwai Trail, is two miles each way with a vertical rise of 650 feet, a large bamboo forest on the way, terminating at the base of Waimoku Falls which drops 400 feet down a sheer cliff. Looking up at this water fall is one of God’s many spectacular creations here on Maui.

To nurture our spirits and love of music we occasionally stop by the Pulehu Chapel in Kula (up-country). As mentioned earlier, this was the first chapel built by The Church on the island in the 1850s (more on this story later). This week we took our instruments with us, found the chapel open, entered and started to play. With its white painted wood paneled walls, floors, and ceiling, it has an amazing resonant sound and Joan’s violin reverbed with amazing beauty, seriously (I think Joan plays violin well. But in this chapel, it is heavenly). We also sang a few hymns harmonizing our voices and feeling the spirit of the music and the place. We also did some video work in the beautiful yard for my next song, “Feel God’s Love Again.”

As we finished, the full-time missionaries arrived and we had a wonderful visit (We keep running into missionaries). We asked if we could play a few songs for them, to which they agreed. And there in that historic chapel we shared some guitar, violin, and singing. We were grateful to add music to their lunch-time break. That evening we attended our ward Mother’s Day dinner where we again were blessed by the spontaneous love ward members gave to us, and the natural kind conversation we wanted to give to them (The spaghetti and salad and desserts were also wonderful).

We are always open to additional ways to serve. One sister in the ward was widowed a couple years ago and had been feeling promptings that her husband’s family history and ancestral temple work needed to be done. We met Sister Rosalind C. a few weeks ago on our first day back in Maui. She was at the breakfast we attended that General Conference weekend at the MacDonald home. During our visit this week, she explained her promptings and feelings that she didn’t know how to proceed with the Chinese research for her husband. The spirit was clear to us; offer to help. I’ve never done Chinese family history research before but I knew the general process and how to find help, so we offered to look into it and ask the opinion of our professional genealogist daughter, Jana, who texted some suggestions (from Fiji where she happened to be at the moment). We followed those suggestions and have given Sister Rosalind a path forward. We look forward to following up with her soon.

Our week wrapped up running in to more missionaries while having Saturday evening dinner at the local Taco Bell. On Sunday we enjoyed worship service and Sunday School in our home ward. We spent part of the evening reading the journal of George Q. Cannon (we’ll work his applicable adventure into our story soon). And on Monday we had a planning session with President K., counselor in our stake presidency who is over the Addiction Recovery Program. He is a mature saint with the best of demeanor. And then we joined part of a Zone Conference being held in the Maui Lani chapel by the full-time missionaries.

Pictures: Waimoku Falls, Kihei Sunset, Pulehu Chapel Singing

Other Maui Service Stories: https://ancestorclips.com/category/maui-service-stories/

Week 4 – April 28, 2025 – Come, Ye Children of the Lord

Hawaii La'ie Temple Trip

We arrived at the airport before light finding the security gates closed. It was the Kahului 1st Ward’s Temple day. The Kahului Hawaii Temple was announced in 2023 but as of now has not been built or started. So, with the Kona Temple under renovation on the ‘big’ island to the south, ward members sacrifice and make the trip west every couple months or so by air to the La’ie Temple on the north shore of O’ahu. At the Honolulu airport, we boarded a few rental vehicles and made the beautiful drive to La’ie. In route it was very pleasant to converse with ward members. Behind the driver was smart and humble Canadian Dale T, about age 70 and a long time resident of Maui. Turn’s out we had a connection with an acquaintance at BYU, Professor Robert T. many years before. In the second row behind me was sweet demeanor Betty Dumaran, a few short years behind President Russell. M. Nelson in age, able to walk slowly but made effective use of the wheelchair staff at the airport. I felt like Betty was my own mother, so kind and thoughtful insisting she pay me back for her Egg-McMuffin at the drive through. Joan was seated in the back row of our van with another sister (isn’t that really nice Joan let her husband sit in shotgun to minimize motion sickness in and out of the curves of the winding coastal road?). Our driver, young Brother Kelii C. seems to have lived on every Hawaiian island. He was born on that very Oahu north shore, lived on Molokai, and worked on Maui for a company headquarters on Kauai, if I remember correctly. Along that north shore he told us where his relatives still live and all about his shallow water spearfishing and the reef causing waves out about a half mile from so.

More about the conversation and getting to know these beautiful people later. With no time to spare, we arrived and made our way into the beautiful Hawaii La’ie Temple. It looked like all the pictures I’d seen. Back home in Utah Valley, where there are five temples to choose from within thirty minutes, we were in the habit of weekly worship and service there. The powerful words of the endowment and other ordinances were reassuring each time we went. We have been in Hawaii for just a few weeks and it was a blessing to enter a place again where such eternal promises and blessings could be explained, made and renewed. The spirit of the temple, whether in Utah or Hawaii is the spirit of eternity, and the very horizon enabled by the Atonement of Jesus Christ. “Thank you Heavenly Father for thy plan and these blessings.” Of course, one cannot experience this and only think of themselves. At the temple there is this compelling feeling to share its meaning with all of God’s children. After the endowment and sealing sessions several of us gathered outside for a photo. I felt something different, a mix of joy and splendor and love and an absence of fear. These were no longer strangers, but fellow citizens in the family of God. We made covenants (or by proxy represented others in making covenants) and we had pondered the eternal significance of the covenants while together.

Earlier that week on Maui we had experienced a similar feeling. During some of our discretionary time, Joan and I took a drive ‘up-country,’ a residential area on the foothills of Haleakala at about three-thousand feet in elevation. It is a beautiful area where, this time of year the Jacaranda trees paint the hillside with plenty of purple and with shade, showering the green ground with a lovely hue and aroma. We visited the Surfing Goat Dairy and enjoyed God’s sweet creatures and sweet chocolates made with goat milk. We also visited the Pulehu Chapel in Kula, built by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints near the site of the first convert baptism in 1851. Passing through the chain-link fence one feels like they have entered sacred temple grounds and upon entering the little well restored chapel, one feels like singing a sacred hymn. Or at least Joan does. After checking the guest register for where visitors all over the world came from, she went right to the pulpit, opened the well-worn green hymnbook and began singing, “Come Ye Children of the Lord.” Synchronizing with her soprano, I joined with bass on the second verse. (The words echoed from the painted slats and stucco; the meaning resonated in our hearts.)
“Oh, how joyful it will be, when our Savior we shall see?
When in splendor he’ll descend, then all wickedness will end.
Oh, what songs we then will sing, to our Savior, Lord, and King!
Oh, what love will then bear sway, when our fears shall flee away?

Back to our temple trip. Before leaving La’ie, Brother Kelii C. asked if we had any preferences for lunch then quickly made a recommendation, Ken’s Fresh Fish. We all agreed and soon we were sinking our teeth into the most delicious Ahi I have ever tasted. During the one hour drive back to Honolulu we experienced sunshine, heavy rain, great Hawaiian vistas, and amazing tunnels through the steep, green, volcanic mountains dividing the windward and the leeward sides of the island. My conversation with Brother Kelii turned out to be very helpful and encouraging for our upcoming assignments as service missionaries. It certainly was not coincidence that he was our temple trip coordinator and our driver that day. The Lord brought us together to move His work forward. We visited and got to know our new friends even more while waiting for our flight at the airport. When we landed back on Maui, we felt the promised love of God which we felt from our experiences of the week, of that day, and in the temple.

Ken and Joan Hardman

Picture 1 – Hawaii La’ie Temple Trip

Picture 2 – Pulehu Chapel, Kula, Maui

Picture 3 – Surfing Goat Dairy